Ways To End the Bedtime Blues

The challenges of adolescence can be harder for parents to deal with than for their kids

Bedtime is a time of frustration for many parents. They wish it could be a magical time to reconnect with children and share fond memories. Here are some easy ways to make those dreams come true:

Bedroom Time vs. Bedtime

The journey to bedtime bliss starts with renaming bedtime. Kids need to think of this time as “bedroom time.” It’s a time for them to be in their rooms, but not necessarily with their eyes closed. Wise parents never try to control the uncontrollable. “You get in your bed and go to sleep, right now!” creates a power struggle over something parents cannot control. A skillful child can keep a parent engaged with this argument for hours.

Slowdown Time

Bedroom time is a journey in itself. It starts with “slowdown time.” A slowdown routine is essential. Children’s brains operate at a high pitch and don’t shut down as quickly as adult brains. Parents should announce the beginning of slowdown time about 40 minutes before bedroom time.

Slowdown time includes turning off stimulating activities such as television, exciting music, and family games. It also is a wonderful time to give kids choices:

  • “Do you want to go to bed right now or in 10 minutes?”
  • “Do you want to brush your teeth in the kitchen or the bathroom?”
  • “Do you want a story first or your bath first?”
  • “Do you want a drink in the kitchen or in your room?”
  • “Do you want a piggy back ride or walk on your own?”
  • “Do you want the light on or off?”
  • “Do you want to get tucked in or do it yourself?”
  • “Do you want to go to sleep right away or try to keep your eyes open as long as you can?”

There is magic in choices. They speak directly to the human need for control and can produce amazing results. Be sure to offer choices you like. Never give one choice you like and one you don’t.

The kids are given no more than 10 seconds to make their decisions. If it takes longer, make the decision for them. Kids become quick decision-makers when they know their parents will be making the decision for them if they don’t act quickly.

Some children like to negotiate in the face of choices. Resist the temptation to argue or reason at this time. Use Love and Logic® arguing neutralizers, such as “I love you too much to argue about that, maybe you’ll like tomorrow’s choices better.” Repeat this phrase as often as necessary without sarcasm or anger.

Remember there is nothing more contagious than a yawn. Experiment with yawning and acting sleepy during story time. It’s great fun to watch the drooping eyelids.

Parent Time

Once the kids are in their room, that’s where they stay. Announce that “kid’s time” is over and it is now “parent’s time.” Stick to your guns on this.

Kids have been known to resort to, “It’s scary in here. There’s monsters in my room.”

Just remember kids take their emotional cues from their parents. The best solution is to respond in a firm, yet loving way: “Well, sweetie, my advice is to make friends with them. See you in the morning. I love you!”

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The challenges of being a working Mum

There’s nothing like being a Mum, it’s the best feeling in the world but let’s be honest it’s not always that way is it?

I tend to worry a lot, most of it is probably unnecessary, actually it is unnecessary (e.g. will she cry at nursery when I drop her off this morning and eat all her food or hurt herself)?
I send myself round the bend with thoughts of things that mostly never occur/happen.

If it’s not worrying, it’s the guilt of leaving her with someone else and thinking I should stay home and spend quality time with my child. I even feel guilty when I forget to do something like pay a bill because I feel I should be able to remember everything.

If we’re not constantly concerned about the health and safety of our children, we’re constantly cleaning them, the house or trying to get them to stop jumping up and down so you can undress them to get in the bath. I’ve had days where I took time to cook a nice nutritious meal like chicken with steamed vegetables and rice only to be told “I don’t like that” then the plate gets pushed into the centre of the table and I hear “Can I have beans on toast” –deep breath!!!

It’s not easy finding a balance between Motherhood and working, especially having your own business. You can find yourself doing more than you need to and getting burnt out. I started to keep a schedule which is making life a bit easier but with that said at times I even forget to look at it – defeats the purpose I know 

Some days are plain sailing where there are others where everything seems to go wrong from waking up late, road closure during school run, it’s starts raining….it’s like a domino effect and you just want to scream from the top of your lungs and say GIVE ME A BREAK!!! But we manage to keep calm and hold it in or do we?

What do you find the most difficult about being a working parent?

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How To Ease Teething For Your Baby

Teething is the appearance of the first teeth through a baby’s gums. It can be a frustrating time for little ones and their parents. But knowing what to expect during teething and how to make the process a little less painful can help you manage.

Easing Teething

Here are some tips to keep in mind when your baby is teething:

  • Wipe your baby’s face often with a bib or muslin cloth to remove the drool and prevent rashes from developing.
  • Rub your baby’s gums with a clean finger.
  • Give your baby something to chew on. Make sure it’s big enough that it can’t be swallowed or choked on and that it can’t break into small pieces. A wet washcloth placed in the freezer for 30 minutes makes a handy teething aid. Be sure to take it out of the freezer before it becomes rock hard — you don’t want to bruise those already swollen gums — and be sure to wash it after each use.Rubber teething rings are also good, but avoid ones with liquid inside because they may break or leak. If you use a teething ring, chill it in the refrigerator, but NOT the freezer. Also, never boil to sterilize it — extreme changes in temperature could cause the plastic to get damaged and leak chemicals.
  • Never tie a teething ring around a baby’s neck or any other body part — it could get caught on something and strangle the baby.
  • If your baby seems irritable, ask your doctor if it is OK to give a dose of acetaminophen or ibuprofen (for babies older than 6 months) to ease discomfort. Never place an aspirin against the tooth, and don’t rub alcohol on your baby’s gums.
  • Teething biscuits and frozen or cold food are only OK for kids who are already eating solid foods. Don’t use them if your child has not yet started solids. And make sure to watch your baby to make sure that no pieces break off or pose a choking hazard.
  • Avoid teething gels and tablets because they may not be safe for babies.

Baby Teeth Hygiene

The care and cleaning of your baby’s teeth is important for long-term dental health. Even though the first set of teeth will fall out, tooth decay makes them fall out more quickly, leaving gaps before the permanent teeth are ready to come in. The remaining primary teeth may then crowd together to attempt to fill in the gaps, which may cause the permanent teeth to come in crooked and out of place.

Daily dental care should begin even before your baby’s first tooth emerges. Wipe your baby’s gums daily with a clean, damp washcloth or gauze, or brush them gently with a soft, infant-sized toothbrush and water (no toothpaste!).

As soon as the first tooth appears, brush it with water and fluoridated toothpaste, using only a tiny amount.

It’s OK to use a little more toothpaste once a child is old enough to spit it out — usually around age 3. Choose one with fluoride and use only a pea-sized amount or less in younger kids. Don’t let your child swallow the toothpaste or eat it out of the tube because an overdose of fluoride can be harmful to kids.

By the time all your baby’s teeth are in, try to brush them at least twice a day and especially after meals. It’s also important to get kids used to flossing early on. A good time to start flossing is when two teeth start to touch. Talk to your dentist for advice on flossing those tiny teeth. You also can get toddlers interested in the routine by letting them watch and imitate you as you brush and floss.

Another important tip for preventing tooth decay: Don’t let your baby fall asleep with a bottle. The milk or juice can pool in a baby’s mouth and cause tooth decay and plaque.

The British Dental Association (BDA) recommends that kids see a dentist by age 1, or within 6 months after the first tooth appears, to spot any potential problems and advise parents about preventive care.

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